Updated: Jan 1, 2021
After having your first kiss, your thoughts begin to turn to how to French kiss. Most of what you know about regular kissing will work well with the French kiss. Here are some tips you can follow to make your French kissing experience particularly memorable.
Before You French Kiss
Before you learn how to French kiss for the first time, you will usually have already enjoyed regular kisses with each other. Using your tongue is more intimate and needs greater comfort between two people.
How to French Kiss Step by Step
Follow these tips on how to French kiss to help your first time go smoothly and be even more pleasurable and exciting.
Dry lips are no fun for kissing. Instead lick your lips quickly to moisten your lips before you kiss. To keep smooth and moist lips, use lip balm and drink plenty of water. At home, you can also exfoliate your lips to keep lips especially kissable. Gently rub a dampened washcloth in circular motions around your lips removing dead skin. After this apply lip balm.
Freshen Your Breath
Nothing is worse than kissing with bad breath. Brush your teeth and tongue before meeting up with your partner. Take some mints with you to pop into your mouth before you start kissing.
Move in at an Angle
When you approach your sweetheart to begin to kiss, angle your head to one side. If you move together straight on then your noses will bump into each other. As you are kissing it is ok to change sides to introduce a little variety. If you're not sure which way to lean, let your partner take the lead and then move in the opposite direction.
Many people close their eyes while kissing and this is helpful so they don't look cross-eyed into each other's eyes. A brief glance during a kiss is fine, but staring at each other during the kiss will likely dampen the mood. Gently close your eyes in a relaxed manner and without squeezing them tightly or you'll feel uncomfortable.
Begin With a Normal Kiss
It is not the best idea to start French kissing immediately. The French kiss should be worked up to with soft, closed-mouthed kisses. Think of these tender kisses as foreplay to builds anticipation for the French kissing main event.
Add Some Tongue
When you decide to begin your French kiss, don't jab your tongue into your partner's mouth. Knock on the door, so to speak, by slowing moving your tongue. Stop when you reach your partner's lips and teeth to make sure your partner wants to begin French kissing. Chances are your date will enthusiastically respond to your French kissing maneuver.
Now that the two of you are French kissing, take the time to explore the mouth, tongue, lips and teeth. Find what is most enjoyable. If you're nervous about your technique, use gentle motions followed by pulling back and kissing normally.
Where you explore will add variety, but there are other ways as well. Don't forget to return to normal kissing. The French kiss is great, but so too is regular kissing. If you go back and forth between the two, you and your partner will avoid getting bored. Adjust the speed and strength of your tongue. Sometimes you'll want to vigorously explore your partner's mouth while other times you'll want to be more passive and let your partner lead.
Tips for the Art of Kissing
Now that you know how to kiss, here are some additional tips to improve your kissing experience.
Breathe. Don't forget to breathe while kissing. You'll be more comfortable and be able to kiss longer. Breathe through your nose so that you won't have to stop your kiss to get air.
Fresh Breath. No one likes to kiss someone with bad breath. Regularly brushing your teeth will help, and downing a breath mint moments before you kiss may also be necessary and appreciated.
Your hands. Kissing isn't just about your mouth and tongue. It's a romantic gesture enjoyed by your whole body. Use your hands to caress and hold your partner and improve your overall French kissing technique.
Focus on Feelings. French kissing for the first time can be daunting. Take your time and focus on sensory pleasure. In no time, you'll be an expert.
Taking a Break. If you need a breather, try giving your partner some gentle kisses on their neck and collarbone.